Tell your child you dating someone
I'm also not sure how to approach the subject in the first place.
I don't want to just casually "throw it out there," but I don't want to present it in a way that makes it seem more serious than it really is.
The conversation will revolve around a statement of fact. We plan to have a simple outing, going to the zoo or seeing a movie. In these cases, I strongly suggest that you get a therapist for yourself and your child, because you will both need objective help to navigate these waters well.
I am introducing a man that I have been seeing to our daughter next weekend. Immature ex spouses can say or do destructive things when they feel out of control. For some insight, you may want to read one of my prior posts on : It's Not Fair! But, this example comes across as a relatively healthy divorce.
So, if your ex husband is in a strong alliance with you with regard to your daughter, he will go along for her sake.
He may feel a sense of loss or a sting of jealousy, but that goes with the territory of divorce. Mark Banschick Can you take a minute to vote for my blog and my book, which are finalists for the Friendship awards?
A series of lovers or friends just provides instability for children and makes them feel unsafe (and makes you look shaky).
I know that this will change our dynamic to a certain extent, but I'm wondering if there's anything I can do to minimize hurt feelings or weirdness.When you go through divorce you will have discretionary time, particularly if it's a joint custody arrangement or if you are the non-custodial parent. They need time to digest the divorce - a year is a good measure.Don't put them in a position to have to decide whom they like better. Are they betraying their mom (or dad) if they like your new friend?Signed, Amanda ANSWER Dear Amanda, You and your ex have a precious daughter together and the fact that you are staying good friends, despite the hurt and loss of a divorce is a big thing.First, it's good for your health because you're not stewing in anger and resentment all the time.